COUPLES RESPONSIBILITY GAME - PLAY AND OPEN CONVERSATIONS FOR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP

                         



                COUPLES RESPONSIBILITY GAME By Bill and Pam Farrell (Watch, then score)
                   
Listen to the above podcast. Then Find below a list of life’s responsibilities. Kindly grade them separately. Give to your spouse to grade too. Then compare! For all issues, your grade should be either 1 or 2 or 3.  

 
           
      

       

       
         
1.       = It is very important to me                2.   = It is important to me, though not a main focus
                                           3.  = If it gets done, that’s fine. If it doesn’t, no sweats
                   
Grade Life Responsibilities
  Being in good physical shape
  Having a neat, clean home
  Having your family finances in order
  Maintaining correspondence
  Having your family finances in order
  Having time with your children (like overseeing homework, team parent, etc.)
  Having fun as a family (like trips, vacations, kick around time)
  Succeeding in your career
  Having a personal ministry/involvement in church
  Extracurricular activities (like community involvement, career enhancement)
  Having a nice car(s)
  Furthering your education
  Achieving more financial success
  Time alone
  Time with God
  Time with mate (talking, relating non-sexually)
  Time for a hobby
  Other ________________________________________________________
 
Couples should score differently. After scoring, compare your grades with your spouses’
A.  Which things are ranked the same? You are less likely to argue over those areas.
B.  Which areas have the greatest differences? (Like yours is a 1 and your spouse’s a 3). You’ll have to negotiate in these areas. They are HOT SPOTS! 
In negotiating, keep in mind that you don’t have to do all those responsibilities. Some can be delegated to house helps/keepers; your children can also do some so they can grow into responsible adults. But you’ll need to supervise them.

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