THE MARITAL SEASONS INDICATOR

   
It is important that people in relationships and marriages take time to gauge their marriages. It is important to know what your spouse thinks so as to adjust and make the relationship work better. Those not in the habit of gauging their relationships often walk deep into the forest before they realize they had veered off in another direction. 
This tool is simple!
 
Listen to the PODCAST up. 

Then get out a sheet of paper and score independently your opinion as per how you feel on each row. Look at all the rows (colored same) and choose the word that captures your feeling about your relationship and mark that word then go to the next row. Do that for all the rows. Then on each row, calculate all the marks and that will be the total for that column. Do it for the four columns. The column that has the highest row is the season you are in. 
Column 1 = WINTER 
Column 2 = SPRING   
Column 3 = SUMMER
Column 4 = FALL        


MARITAL SEASONS INDICATOR
1 Discouraging  Exciting Satisfying Uncertain
2 Hopeless Happy Peaceful Confusing
3 Empty Hopeful Committed Stressful
4      Harsh     Nurturing Secure    Frustrating
5      Resentful     Open Trusting    Tired
6     Destructive     Fresh Relaxed    Distant
7     Rejection     Anticipation Appreciation    Apprehension
8     Tension     Sharing Honest    Drifting
9     Give-Up     Making Plans Teamwork    Apathetic
10     Critical     Caring Connected    Concerned
11     Angry     Joyful Understanding    Burned Out
12     Disappointed     Optimistic Comfortable    Neglectful
13     Untrusting     Tender Supportive    Afraid
14     Withdrawn     Growing Attached    Detached
15     Cold     Alive Content    Prideful
16     Unforgiven     Willing to            Change Overlook Flaws Growing Apart
Total        
  Column 1 Total Column 2 Total Column 3 Total Column 4 Total
Answer 16 questions about the truthful impression of your marriage. On each same color row, put a dot on the one that most fits your assessment. Do that for questions 1-16. 
Then on each column total, sum it. Each column total must have a total, from 0-16. 
Then look at the analysis on the comment below in familycolorsblog.blogspot.com  or contact us familycolors@yahoo.co.uk or tweet at us @familycolors1 

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