THE MARRIOMETER - A DIAGNOSTIC TOOL FOR SCORING THE STATUS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

`GET TO SCORE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE WONDERFUL MARRIOMETER DIAGNOSTIC TOOL
The MARRIOMETER is a relationship diagnostic tool that helps people to assess their strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats if going into marriage. It critically assesses their status, identifies future issues and hands over for attention. The Marriometer classes people into three Colors: Green, Yellow, Red.
INSTRUCTION: Choose the most appropriate answers for you. Score and calculate the total. Use the total to rate yourself.
Question 1 - Critically assess the status of your parent's marriage
A	Parents still hanging in there and unhappy	4
B	Parents still married and happy	1
C	Parents divorced	10
D	Parents separated	8
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 2 - Critically assess parents definition of marriage
A	Father practiced polygamy	9
B	Parent(s) still together but from polygamous homes	3
C	Mother practiced polyandry	10
D	Raised by a single parent	6
E	Raised by both parents in a monogamy	2
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 3 - Critically assess the duration of your parent's marriage
A	Below 15 years	5
B	Between 15 and 20 years	3
C	Above 20 years and counting	1
D	Few months	6
E	Not married	8
F	Was born at home	10
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 4 - Assess the relationship of your parents (your perspective)
A	Just normal	2
B	Respect yourself and I respect myself	8
C	Bitterness was a hallmark	4
D	Daddy and Mummy fought each other physically	10
E	Sweet Romeo and Juliet	1
F	Never saw them as a couple	6
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 5 - Educational balance between you and your partner
A	Same educational level	2
B	One step lower or higher	4
C	Two steps lower or higher	8
D	Three steps lower or higher	10
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 6 - Language Balance
A	Same language	2
B	Different language but English is common	4
C	Different languages but only pidgin is common	6
D	No common language at all	10
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 7 - Tribal Balance
A	Same tribe and race	2
B	Different tribes but one of the parents tribe is common	4
C	Different tribes strictly	8
D	Different races	10
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 8 - Religious Balance
A	Same core religious persuasion	2
B	Different core but common general religious persuasion	4
C	Different general religious persuasion	8
D	No religious persuasion - one or both (atheist or so)	10
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 9 - Previous Baggage
A	None we can easily point at	2
B	One of partners has a child outside	5
C	One of the partners had a previous marriage	7
D	Both of the partners have children outside	8
E	Both have children and had previous marriage	10
Maximum Score for this section		10
Question 10 - Age Balance
A	No real age difference (+ or - 1)	2
B	Man older by less than 5 years	1
C	Woman older by about 2 - 5 years	4
D	Man older by 10 years or more	3
E	Woman older by about 10 years or more	5
Maximum Score for this section		5
Question 11 - Response to Authority
A	Partner gives impression he/she fears/respects someone (however I am not too sure)	3
B	My partner definitely has someone he/she fears/respects and I know the person	1
C	My partner has no one he/she fears or respects and he tells me so	5
Maximum Score for this section		5
INSTRUCTION: Add up all your scores. Maximum score is 100. Your score is your percentage. If you didn’t answer all questions, do a proportion
	RECOMMENDATION	SCORES
A	Regular. Proceed working on basic foundational issues in marriage	< 25%
B	Caution.  Aim at identifying issues and solving them while proceeding slowly. Priority – confront the issues	26 - 45%
C	Danger ahead. Attempt to settle many of the issues before proceeding to avoid casualty	46 - 100%