ANGER SEEKS TO UNDERMINE BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIPS - BEWARE!

ANGER SEEKS TO UNDERMINE BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIPS - BEWARE!
The Bible Says, 'Be angry, but sin not'. 
Anyone can be angry, anytime, anywhere and with anybody. But to be able to control your anger and prevent it from spoiling the present and the future, that, my friend, is a blessing from God and a skill.

Why do people get angry? When their wishes, perspectives, directions and desires are not followed or met. The fact is that anger is usually an episodic manifestation. It should be guided by the wise so as to yield a sensible end and to destroy the present and the future. 

What happens, however, is that when people are not able to restrain this anger, they begin to say, do or manifest other characteristics that may not even be related to the cause of the anger. 
For example, when a couple have a disagreement about where to shop, they have the option of containing and confining the manifestation of the conflict and the anger to the disagreement. But many people are not able to do that. 

Some couples in anger can go ahead and insult the parents of their partner and even say some uncomplimentary remarks about their partners (most of which do not have a direct bearing with the cause of the anger). Oftentimes, people are not hurt by anger as much as they are hurt by what was said and done during anger!

Let us note that anger, if not handled well, could SPOIL other areas of the harbingers life and relationship. 

LET US CURTAIL AND CONFINE ANGER TO THE REAL CAUSE AND IN THAT WAY, WE UNDERMINE ITS CAPACITY. 

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  1. Family ColorsJuly 29, 2020 at 1:52 AM

    Perhaps the closest activity to this picture is the case of couples quarreling but still addressing themselves with their pet names such as 'babe', 'honey', 'sugar'.

    Experts suggest that to undermine the effects of quarrels and conflicts, couples should hold their hands or at least make sure their bodies are touching! REASON - when their bodies touch, millions of impulses are passed and most of them undermine the processes of conflicts.

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