FAMILY COLORS

    It is important that people in relationships and marriages take time to gauge their marriages. It is important to know what your spouse thinks so as to adjust and make the relationship work better. Those not in the habit of gauging their relationships often walk deep into the forest before they realize they had veered off in another direction.  This tool is simple!   Listen to the PODCAST up.  Then get out a sheet of paper and score independently your opinion as per how you feel on each row. Look at all the rows (colored same) and choose the word that captures your feeling about your relationship and mark that word then go to the next row. Do that for all the rows. Then on each row, calculate all the marks and that will be the total for that column. Do it for the four columns. The column that has the highest row is the season you are in.  Column 1 = WINTER  Column 2 = SPRING    Column 3 = SUMMER Column 4 = FALL   ...

LISTEN TO THE ABOVE AUDIO ON FIGHTING FAIR AVOIDING FIGHTS IS PROBABLY NOT AS GOOD AS FIGHTING FAIR You may fight! But fight fair ! You may enter into conflict! But be fair and know that there will be another tomorrow after the conflict! That is where a lot of people miss it. Conflicts can be very beneficial in relationships. Conflicts can be positive and constructive, when handled well. Studies and experiences have told us that conflicts are not the real culprits in relationships.  Conflicts don’t destroy relationships! What destroys relationships is how you behave during conflicts. Someone said, ‘what kills a relationships is the thing that was said and done during the conflict and not the conflict per say”. So people should spend more time learning how to say the right things and do the right things during conflicts.  Lets discuss the CORE principles which Dr Leslie Parrots made popular. These principles will empower you to face conflicts and fight fair.  What are the...

                                          COUPLES RESPONSIBILITY GAME By Bill and Pam Farrell (Watch, then score)                     Listen to the above podcast. Then Find below a list of life’s responsibilities. Kindly grade them separately. Give to your spouse to grade too. Then compare! For all issues, your grade should be either 1 or 2 or 3.                                                 1.       = It is very important to me                2.   = It is important to me, thou...

` GET TO SCORE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE WONDERFUL MARRIOMETER DIAGNOSTIC TOOL The MARRIOMETER is a relationship diagnostic tool that helps people to assess their strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats if going into marriage. It critically assesses their status, identifies future issues and hands over for attention. The Marriometer classes people into three Colors: Green, Yellow, Red. INSTRUCTION : Choose the most appropriate answers for you. Score and calculate the total. Use the total to rate yourself.  Question 1 - Critically assess the status of your parent's marriage A Parents still hanging in there and unhappy 4 B Parents still married and happy 1 C Parents divorced 10 D Parents separated 8 Maximum Score for this section 10 Question 2 - Critically assess parents definition of marriage A Father practiced polygamy 9 ...

  The COLOR of your parents marriage will affect (or is already affecting) yours! In like manner, the COLOR of your marriage will affect your children's own.  Over the years, offsprings transmit along generational lines, either some good practices or malpractices in marriage. Most times, children whose fathers beat their mothers, though they hated it when they were growing up; but they later find such a vice playing a tune in their lives. How did they get such hated vice into their system? NATURE OR NURTURE ?  Most likely NURTURE !  Take out time and read John 5:19 -  " So Jesus explained himself at length. "I'm telling you this straight. The Son can't independently do a thing, only what he sees the Father doing. What the Father does, the Son does". Determine to put out the best color for the generations after you! So, may I ask you, 'Whats your family COLOR '

   The male and female brains are different! The interesting thing is that many couples don't know about this incredible difference. They expect their spouses to think like them, perceive like them and decide and desire like them. That is the source of marital and relationship problems plaguing the society.  Men, process more from the left side of the brain while women process more on the right side of the brain. The left side of the brain is for LOGIC while the right side is for MEMORY . Women tend to remember more, are more intuitive and subjective while men don't really remember much, are objective and logical.  The Creator has made this for complement. Imagine the logical husband making a decision with the intuitive wife. It will be one of the best decisions in the world. However, because they do not know these differences, they tend to compete with rather than complement themselves.  When couples come to learn the magnitude of the innovation that God explo...

Look again at this picture and you will connect with it. Never allow the ego in you to cast a covering over the child in you.  Two adults (a husband and a wife) might finish quarreling and they are lying on the bed and frowning and refusing to talk to each other. Each person is asking in his or her heart, 'why should I be the one to apologize or reconnect discussions? (Who can relate?) But right inside their hearts are two children who want to 'cut it off' and get back to playing together once again. 😁 Always remember this child in you and make sure you don't stifle it with the evil ego in you. Listen to the merry voice of that child. God always gives us options to wriggle out of bad conditions we always put ourselves in! ALWAYS LISTEN TO THE LITTLE CHILD IN YOU!

ANGER SEEKS TO UNDERMINE BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIPS - BEWARE! The Bible Says, 'Be angry, but sin not'.  Anyone can be angry, anytime, anywhere and with anybody. But to be able to control your anger and prevent it from spoiling the present and the future, that, my friend, is a blessing from God and a skill. Why do people get angry? When their wishes, perspectives, directions and desires are not followed or met. The fact is that anger is usually an episodic manifestation . It should be guided by the wise so as to yield a sensible end and to destroy the present and the future.  What happens, however, is that when people are not able to restrain this anger, they begin to say, do or manifest other characteristics that may not even be related to the cause of the anger.  For example, when a couple have a disagreement about where to shop, they have the option of containing and confining the manifestation of the conflict and the anger to the disagreement. But many people are not abl...

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